Getting back in gear
So, as I’m sure anyone who reads this here little blog on a fairly consistent basis (much love to you) knows that roughly two weeks ago I went into a little tail spin. It happens. This, right after my amazing weekend away. This, right after my 7 day fast. It happens.
So, I’ll be perfectly honest, the past week has been spent recovering. Recovering includes eating pretty much whatever I want regardless of nutritional value (or lack there of). However, thankfully that was kept in check because I also decided that I wasn’t going to go grocery shopping this week but rather use up foods that I have on hand, hidden in the far reaches of my cupboard, and resting the in the recesses of my freezer. I also decide that I would freely discuss my feelings and thoughts with just about anyone who knew the situation and was willing to listen. (And the later requirement wasn’t particularly necessary.) So here we are, a week and a day later, and it’s time to get back on track.
I think it’s really important to be able to work through things as they come up, to celebrate, grieve, recuperate, or enjoy as the situation calls for. But, I think it’s equally important to give yourself a reasonable time frame to do these things in. Generally speaking, depending on the severity of the situation, an hour to a week is my general time frame.
Now that’s not to say that every problem in the world, or every emotion for that mater can be properly dealt with in a week. But, for me, by the time a week has rolled around I’m able to put things into a better perspective and continue to deal with whatever needs dealt with privately and move on with the rest of my life.
I find this time frame practice really helpful, mostly because it allows me to feel. Being a personality prone to ignoring unpleasantness, I’ve found it imperative to find ways to acknowledge and deal with issues as they come up. Giving myself a few minutes to a few days to fully experience what I’m feeling allows me to then come out on the other side feeling as if the situation has been resolved rather than it lurking in the background of my mind until later on a similar situation comes up, bringing to the surface all the old feelings and making the current problem that much worse.
Giving myself a time frame also allows me to move on. Most (good) friends are more than willing to help us through our time of need, but there is a limit. My rule is I give myself a set time frame to talk to my friends and family and express whatever I feel needs to be expressed, then we all move on. If, later, they specifically ask me how I’m doing with something then I’ll honestly let them know, but other than that once the time frame has past, I try to take the focus off of myself and focusing on what’s going on in their lives rather than just mine.
So, in anticipation of this new week and new perspective on life, I’ve gotten back into the swing of things. It takes a little effort, but it’s an amazing feeling to do things that I know are good for me in anticipation of the good things yet to come.